Our stories will transform and shift the perspectives of the police, the courts, psychiatrists, therapists, lawyers, and our support groups of family and friends. And it’s up to us, no one else, to open their minds to fully understand the impact of psychopath/sociopath abuse and trauma on victims.

Ph.D. candidate Courtney Humeny has been compiling her data and research for her thesis since 2011. She’s working diligently and putting much thought, effort, and consideration into her work. She asked me in the past to participate and help recruit others to participate; she’s asking us again.

So please consider participating in this research. She’s tentatively planning to defend her thesis in December 2016. Her work is so important to us and will provide the validation and credibility we all deserve. Details and steps for participating are provided in the Community Recruitment Announcement below.

With care,
Paula Carrasquillo, MA, RYT-200
advocate & mindfulness coach

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Community Recruitment Announcement

Who we are recruiting

The “Emotion, resilience, and post-traumatic growth in domestic abuse survivors” study investigates the outcome of being in an abusive romantic relationship.

We are looking for participants (aged over 18) who identify as being in a prior heterosexual abusive romantic relationship.

Abusive experiences may include verbal/ emotional abuse (i.e., bullying, manipulation), coercion (i.e., intimidation, threats, control of finances, isolation), lying and deceit (i.e., infidelities), and sexual assault. Particularly we are looking for people who identify as being abused by a romantic a partner who displays psychopathic or narcissistic characteristics. These may include:

• Pathological lying (i.e., use of aliases) • Engaging in infidelities • Failure to take responsibility for their actions • Lacks empathy, guilt, and ability to feel deep emotions • Manipulative and exploitative of others • Sense of entitlement, grandiose sense of self-worth, or feelings of superiority • Involvement in criminal activities • Impulsive and irresponsible • Engages in risk taking behaviours (e.g., drug use) • Being superficially charming

What your participation will involve

If you are interested in participating in the study please follow the link www.cuaftermath.com, which is a secure website where you will be asked to make an account with a username and password (no personal or identifying information will be asked, such as your name or address). The study will take approximately 1.5 hours to complete.

On the secure website, you will be asked to complete a few questionnaires, a card game where you will select decks to gain as many points as possible, and a task where you will be presented a series of images of male faces and asked what emotion they are expressing.

The questionnaires will include questions on your experiences of anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress, experiences of positive growth, and perceptions of interactions with other people (i.e., social support). There will also be questions addressing experiences in the abusive relationship (e.g., onset, type, severity, and length of abuse), and traits of the abuser, such as:

Does he or she think it is fun to push people until they get upset?
Has been convicted of a serious crime?
Does he or she think they can get what they want by telling people what they want to hear?

Please do not participate if…

1. You identify as CURRENTLY in an abusive relationship. For your safety, we recommend that individuals currently in a relationship not participate in the current study. We worry for participants’ safety if they complete this study while in close physical proximity to their abuser.

2. We ask if you are currently undergoing or have undergone treatment for a gambling problem that you do not participate because the card game is similar to a gambling game.

Some of the questionnaires may address stressful topics. If you wish to withdraw at any time (even skipping a few questions on the questionnaires), you may do so as the study is entirely voluntary and anonymous. There will be no penalization if you decide to withdraw, no matter at what point in the study. You do not have to complete all of the study at one time; you can stop and complete the study at your convenience. There is the possibility that participation in the study may trigger or exacerbate distress.


Participation in the current study is strictly voluntary (there will be no incentive or cash given for participation). This study has been approved by the Carleton University Research Ethics Board-A (CUREB-A) (103670).

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